As a man, I can honestly say a lot of this can be applied to men as well. The only problem, neither the feelings nor your current state of being are sustainable and doomed to die down. My boyfriend left me after I found out I was pregnant and now he’s seeing the girl in my building. I’m also a bit and I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m a bit scared. Learn how your comment data is processed. U know what I have been in relationship for a year and half after that we broke up he was my first and I still love him but I know God’s no is for better I believe only that but my heart is still with him don’t know what to do with my heart, I feel for you and know exactly what you are going through. Especially when I tried to tell him there was more to life than gaming. I broke up with my Ex 2 years ago but I feel so tied to him. Me ex thinks he left me but I believe God removed him! He Dnt make too much effort I felt in meeting me up after some months so I Dnt bother but when he continuously use to write me as it was long distance I took him seriously. I am at a stage where I am learning to love myself and God again. And all the breakups she gives me funny reasons why she has to breakup with me. This is your decision, no coercion here. Continue to do so in order to build your self-esteem up and create a life that you love. I’ve never been in a relationship before, but I can contemplate this to the other divisions of my life when God says no to some. We had an incredible relationship, respectful, loving – everything you could hope for a relationship to be. I loved a lady and God used it to change my life to its full potential (not in an idolatric way, but it pushed me to keep on pushing with Him to be the best pleasing sacrifice to Him). I think you are doing the right thing by surrendering the relationship to God and not forcing it. , Hi Christina, wow it’s such a blessing to hear your story. God is perfect and so is his plan for our lives. There is less laughter in your relationship. God warned both of us. We are living in a world that tells people they don’t have to tolerate any abuse from anyone and can just leave every relationship for any type of perceived or actual abuse. Sometimes even questioning if they did abuse me. I mean I’m not even sure if there is the possibility of a future there or not, I don’t know if I hope for the best or if I let the feelings go and stay friends.. – Zechariah 10:2. I wanted to wait until marriage to be intimate with him, but we kinda stumble and I felt God was really not happy and he kept saying end the relationship. Move like there’s no plan B. Why? Anyway he broke up with me saying he didn’t think he could be the man i needed. I can be stubborn sometimes haha! We don't have that kind of mountain-moving faith. I so agree Tatyana! I guess our task now is to see if we can glorify God together because that’s what marriage is for. Hi Leeisha, there is only one way for you to understand. The small, limited, and worldly meaning of love used to describe a relationship between a man and a woman. Right now after reading your post, I’ve come to realised that God can breakup or say NO to a relationship. I’m excited to hear that you are growing closer to God, because of your boyfriend’s influence in your life. Any advice? Therefore, I would try to make it work no matter what, which made me compromise my core values and forget about my self-worth. Please I need you advice, this has been giving me sleepless nights,how should I handle this issue? I got along with his kids and family so well; we would go to church, which I loved. I know I’m unattractive, overweight, below average and I had come to terms with it – I had no desire to put myself out there and was happy to go through life how I was. Sometimes we simply want to see the best in someone. I pray you get closer to God and find the woman that he has for you. This was almost three years ago. I’m also convinced that that might be his only purpose and then the relationship will be over and I’m terrified because it’s the first healthy relationship I’ve been in in forever . Love & Light Justine. I believe that Jesus was real . Peace. I also asked God to confirm that this guy is my man. A lot of our challenges only make sense in hindsight, but I know God will use your experiences for his glory. This man is so stubborn, and though he is Christian; he tends to get into his own head to the point where I am worried he ignores God’s voice. We secretly hope that God will understand and improve our job or relationship. I also believed He told me this man was my husband. I’m happy you can relate to it, even in your marriage . thank you Justine. My Fiance left me and our children suddenly my life was perfect I had it all. I have also prayed feverishly to God to take away this pain, the unbearable grief, the constant hurt associated with the break up, to let go, to forget and to see the upside of this break-up. Hi Justine, Then one day he says he don’t. Everything has always came to pass. Love solution spell temple powers are strong. Through out the years I’ve prayed to go for sign which have all come through dreams. Stupid I know, but Instagram was life at one point. Everything was well and so different from my past relationships which were so bad for me. My ex-boyfriend was not the one God had for me. Prior to this relationship (first one ever), I felt I did not need a man in my life and I was pretty content being on my own, not lonely but happy to be alone. But im full of pain an God still gave me the answer. I am going through a similar situation. That’s why a personal relationship with Jesus and obedience to God’s word is profoundly important. Do people take marriage too lightly in the modern world, absolutely! They may start off as a situationship and later on evolve to a committed relationship. I spoke to her mum according to the woman she has been trying to talk to her to come to her senses but last monday i told the woman not to cakl her again because is obvious she now has another man. It was hard to accept God’s no, but I’m so thankful for it now that I look back and understand how poisonous those relationships were. We who know HIM will have an eternity of no more sorrow or pain HE will dry our eyes, so there still will be pain until the end. In contrast, when you are in love you agree to a long-lasting commitment to care for your partner. All these are not emotions or feelings that come from God. Sometimes those reasons make me confused and more confuse. Hey Sarah, I’m glad the post helped you understand the break up a little better. I told my sister and she said she had a dream that I told her I’d broken up with my boyfriend a few days before, she has been known to have godly dreams in the past. One week, two weeks, even three weeks later and my ex had still not been touched by the Holy Spirit. That’d be unfair. I have been heartbroken over it. But then, this feeling inside me getting stronger and love him more everyday. Suddenly he was always getting irritated with me for simply asking for better communication and why had he changed the second year in our relationship. Could go spilt us up for a while for us to come back together ? I’m glad this post helped you identify areas you can work on next time. Suddenly I saw that I’ve become lukewarm and lost focus even in myself and my future. May God bless you and Happy New Year!!! Do you think these 3 reasons apply to friendships as well? “I don’t want to fall in love with anyone else until it is ‘the right one,’” I told God. Justine, This has given me a reason to get back on my feet and be thankful rather than drown myself in my tears. Sometimes the only thing worse than being alone is being with the wrong person in a bad relationship. And if he just wants friendship you have to set boundaries, so that you can protect yourself from falling for him. It led me to a much better, healthier relationship that did end in marriage. if you feel absolutely nothing for him, he is not the one. I asked if she was aware of this friendship and he completely lost it and I know he told his brother because they even tried to change the ex girlfriends name to make it seem like it was a dude. I’m going through the same exact thing right now. I have been praying more than ever for us to work it out..but I’m so confused because this pastor had never told us wrong through a prophetic word. The difference is easily found in myself and that regarding three relationships I experienced and the third still am asking God portion first where He sent her back unto me as though we both felt true love since we love God and ourselves the outer circumstances are the haunting factor created by other people unable to accept what reality is and pursue to tear our love and lives apart. may God bless u so much… Well, I have committed clearly and it isn’t enough for her. I was so and still am in love. I hurt Him and myself. I cannot do this any longer and feel that Gods blessings and promises are only for some people. One of the things we have to look out for and pray over is separation of soul ties. I asked for sign after it and didn’t get anything I also asked sign that if me and my partner would stay together but didn’t get anything. Hello, complement of the day. By questioning your heart’s desire and getting to the root of it! The second reason why God takes away a relationship is closely linked to the first one, yet worth pointing out again. I then met a Godly man after that. After stalking him which I shouldn’t have done I discovered he only use to like two women’s photos from his entire friends list. Be blessed, This man is truly amazing, so kind and loving. God bless you for sharing this article with us. And God kept His word. He said he felt I lectured him like a child and wouldn’t let him do what he enjoyed. I can’t grasp the concept of Jesus dying on the cross or Jesus being God in the flesh . I leave it to Gods hands and ask prayers from my soul and my heart. What beautiful wisdom that you have learned. God is not perfect, he also makes mistakes I believe. If you still feel for your ex, you should not be dating, but instead, keep working on untying your souls. A huge sign that God is trying to remove someone from your life is that the relationship between you two will get worse and worse and worse NOT BETTER. Personal Evidence for God: If you want to begin a relationship with God now, you can. These reasons are often if not always built upon lies far from the truths that we fall in love in the first place. Justine. He kept rejecting my desperate attempts to salvage the relationship, which in turn just made me more miserable. Every relationship has it’s good moments and it’s not so good moments. I compromised a lot of my values and beliefs. I’m 31. It always protects, always trusts always hopes, always perseveres and it never fails.’ (Excerpt of 1 Corinthians 13). Unfortunately, I can’t answer your question, because I don’t know what God’s plan for you is. SO many things aligned with us – it was almost scary. Major I said a prayer for you. If you can answer all these questions with a yes then there is a good chance that the relationship is serving a bigger purpose. No one has ever failed in believing that God can provide with His riches in heaven. Particularly when it comes to dating relationships. We should be happy that God showed us that the relationship isn’t the right one before it takes a turn for the worse. But sometimes he's telling us to move on. It has been a few months and I have learned that if we would have stayed together, I don’t think we would of ended so nicely due to work issues for both of us. He has now moved on and in a new happy relationship. Wow what a testimony. My purpose for this site is to help women attract and maintain a godly relationship, by teaching self-love, mastery of the mind and confidence. 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