Be blessed! Last week I decided I will move away from him and find happines in God, because he is always there for me. Suddenly I saw that I’ve become lukewarm and lost focus even in myself and my future. Me and my girlfriend are christian , togther since 4years , study in same place , but when she finish her exam she left me to her native place to spend her holiday , there she got touch by holy spirit , she never talk to me telling me that she cannot understand herself and wanted to make sure her linkage with God first , Even though we are in relationship , we use to put God first , pray , go to church and became Holy until marriage , but now im hurt , even though i can sacrifice her with all my heart to God , as Im afraid of God , even though I trust God , I ask him answer why he did this to us , Im just waitting for her with Patience hoping she will talk to me and explain an share what she got. How do I move on? It seems impossible at the moment and it’s hard to forget someone and the emotional highs associated with them, like how happy I felt with them and such. It may be that you’re getting closer to God and they’re getting further away from God. I have been praying more than ever for us to work it out..but I’m so confused because this pastor had never told us wrong through a prophetic word. She immediately left me for another guy but for me I am worried I don’t know how even to met another girl, where to meet her. God bless you for sharing this. if you feel absolutely nothing for him, he is not the one. I’m so happy I came across this posting. great reminder at the beginning of the year…great even if God has said YES to someone…but it also applies to when God says NO to something! I’ll continue to seek God. God’s ways really are better than our own , Can you share with me your story about how to cane to hear Gods No in your relationship and how you met your yes. But the waiting is extremely painful; but oh well, in His time. I wanted to remain in a relationship so that I could showcase it to my Facebook friends and continue using hashtags like #hisandhers #bae #lovemesomehim etc. However, if you are not married to him you are running the risk of being unequally yoked and therefore miss out on many blessings God has for you. He sounded happy. Every day, I would beg God to restore the “love” my ex-boyfriend and I had for each other. Trust and time are the answers…. Don’t stay with someone because it looks good on paper (he is Christian etc.). I told her to please stop questioning it. I need help! I didn’t like feeling ignored up to 6 hours at a time because of his video games. Despite all this, I know I have to keep going and persevere – because if I don’t, I honestly don’t know how long I can keep going. Suddenly he was always getting irritated with me for simply asking for better communication and why had he changed the second year in our relationship. My motivation for work has also come to an all-time-low, especially after I collapsed from overworking in the attempt to forget everything about the break-up. Be blessed *Justine. Even though a breakup can be hard, you never want to feel like it is leaving you hopeless. If both og you keep God in the center of your lives, everything else will fall into place. Thanks a lot Justine for sharing this, I have been in a relationship for more than 3 years and I felt I loved the girl only for her to come and say she wanted to full time ministry and she preferred a guy who is doing such hence she has no peace in the relationship. , Hi Christina, wow it’s such a blessing to hear your story. I’m thankful because the time apart has brought so much growth in my life…Before I was uncertain about committing in marriage because of the issues we had, but after time apart now I’m sure! Nothing wrong with that. I love God with all my heart and soul!! I believe that Jesus was real . It’s now 40 years and she’s still there through 3 failed marriage s. Going through a horrible time right now. I’m still praying to God if He can give me my relationship back. I went to work this morning and my manager sent me home because of how bad I looked. Made me feel like it was all my fault and I still struggling while she lives her life sometimes I don’t know what to do ifeel like I lost the love of my life but I also believe everything happens for a reason . I’m so sorry you are going through this Joe. It is in his time, through his wisdom and grace, that if I am to be in a relationship, God will bring the right person to me at the right time. Well About a month and a half ago he decided to leave and break up with me for a miscommunication. I proposed to her on 03/06/2019 because i have grown to truely love her despite her faults but ever si;ce i proposed it has been issues after the other. i just hope God hasn’t forgotten me. We never had any contact of any sexual nature at all. Now that her and I are over, I realize that I don’t NEED her. Even when you’re together, you’re distant. Do you truly believe that he can provide for you or are you hiding behind your ‘cynical’ idea of what you think life should look like? Sometimes we simply want to see the best in someone. If you use any of these links to buy a product, I’ll earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. Hi Faith, I can imagine that this is a very hard place to be in. Since she filed for the divorce proceedings occurred the divorce was granted and so on his desperation to wedge his way back into communication with her has led him down some dark and destructive roads. However he become aware that the new person of which she was dating was a bit higher up in comparison to the previous abusive boyfriend in the local community tied in with drug use. I moved back across the country to where my family still lived. I lived him but for him it was infatuation, although he claimed to love me. 2 years later; after being bothered by friends and family for months, I finally joined an online dating site and met an incredible man after 5 days. Satan is the god of this world and he is the one who turned their hearts. God will sometimes end a relationship for YOUR protection....so stop chasing after the person he's trying to save you from. Imagine the tragedy of waking up at the end of a self-centered and meaningless life. It always protects, always trusts always hopes, always perseveres and it never fails.’ (Excerpt of 1 Corinthians 13). If he wants a relationship, then the two f you need to establish what it should look like. Everything has always came to pass. #9 End the relationship. He broke up with me in a long drawn out text basically saying that he wasn’t ready for kids or marriage which we had both disscussed enthusiastically in the past. on the other hand, I feel. When I release and let go, I normally learn to understand why God said ‘no.’ My college ex was terrible; he even ended up cheating on me. They share grandchildren and it is becoming very clear that there is not going to be a grant witch involvement can be compromised they’re both civil and he doesn’t try anything so to speak at Gathering such as birthdays however he does make it more difficult and awkward for her to attend especially with the new boyfriend being her primary mode of transportation at times and the boyfriend having to have taken out a restraining order on my friend because his threats in implications prior to divorce being granted. You know the rollercoaster of emotions, you think you’re just fine and then it all comes crashing back down on you again. The first almost took my life by his hands but my pleas to God to save my life was answered seconds later as a neighbor heard my cries and police soon beat on my door as I was being taken into attic. And I think I was closer to God before I was dating her too. Sometimes, people drift apart for no apparent reason. Required fields are marked *. Hey Ben, I disagree with you. Idolatry is something we are repeatedly warned about in the Bible. And I did pray to God i said “Lord, if he is not the one, please don’t let him confess his feeling towards me in any way. I need to put God first in my life, to only worship His name. An idol can be anything you desire more than God. I first met him when I was 5 and he was 10, and since then I fell instantly in love with him, and he was somehow attracted to me. In my mind, I was convinced that God had ordained that relationship and that he wanted us to be together. They are also necessary as part of life and especially when it comes to our relationship with God. Allo your ex-boyfriend time to think about the relationship and you, so that he can make the right decision, after all, you do not want to be with someone that does not love you back. Never miss a post again!, sign up for email alerts today. God has my best interest here. He has now moved on and in a new happy relationship. 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